Dumper
Dear Both Ends: I am an affectionate girl. I’m one of those touchy-feely people. I love being
around people and I go out to bars and social gatherings every chance I get. The problem is
my boyfriend is kind of an introvert. All he does is stay home all the time playing video games.
We’ve lived together for about 10 months and not once has he ever gone out with me. It’s
getting to the point I want to dump him. What should I do?
Courtni; age 21, single, no children, barista
Dr Gomes: Dumping him would be a drastic step in relationship problem-solving. What have
you attempted to resolve this difference in introversion/extroversion? If what you are doing
does not work, then you will have to do something different. These differences may reflect
differences in how you two recharge your batteries. Ultimately you will have to accept these
differences if you cannot change them. But if you do leave the relationship, leave because you
two want different thing and not because he has a problem. To leave otherwise would mean
that you are leaving with baggage. This baggage will influence your future relationships.
Suggestion: Read “Please Understand Me II: Temperament, Character Intelligence” by David
Keirsey to learn about the differences in how people gain energy.
Suggestion: Larry Star: It appears that you are two are really opposites. How the heck did
you guys hook up in the first place? Sex forgives a lot of shortcomings, doesn’t it? You seem
to have a lot of resentment towards him because he isn’t into the same things you are. I say
you guys are headed for Splitsville eventually. You might as well do it before Halo IV comes out.
Suggestion: Listen to Paula Abdul’s, “Opposites Attract.”
From Both Ends: Dr. Gomes thinks Courtni should try to resolve her issues with her boyfriend
because there is so much at stake. Larry thinks she should cut her losses and look for a new
game.
Dear Both Ends: I am an affectionate girl. I’m one of those touchy-feely people. I love being
around people and I go out to bars and social gatherings every chance I get. The problem is
my boyfriend is kind of an introvert. All he does is stay home all the time playing video games.
We’ve lived together for about 10 months and not once has he ever gone out with me. It’s
getting to the point I want to dump him. What should I do?
Courtni; age 21, single, no children, barista
Dr Gomes: Dumping him would be a drastic step in relationship problem-solving. What have
you attempted to resolve this difference in introversion/extroversion? If what you are doing
does not work, then you will have to do something different. These differences may reflect
differences in how you two recharge your batteries. Ultimately you will have to accept these
differences if you cannot change them. But if you do leave the relationship, leave because you
two want different thing and not because he has a problem. To leave otherwise would mean
that you are leaving with baggage. This baggage will influence your future relationships.
Suggestion: Read “Please Understand Me II: Temperament, Character Intelligence” by David
Keirsey to learn about the differences in how people gain energy.
Suggestion: Larry Star: It appears that you are two are really opposites. How the heck did
you guys hook up in the first place? Sex forgives a lot of shortcomings, doesn’t it? You seem
to have a lot of resentment towards him because he isn’t into the same things you are. I say
you guys are headed for Splitsville eventually. You might as well do it before Halo IV comes out.
Suggestion: Listen to Paula Abdul’s, “Opposites Attract.”
From Both Ends: Dr. Gomes thinks Courtni should try to resolve her issues with her boyfriend
because there is so much at stake. Larry thinks she should cut her losses and look for a new
game.
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